I think you are taking this personally, whereas, I certainly am not making it so. While this is my opinion, I am not necessarily trying to get you to share mine, I am merely stating it the same as you stated yours. The fact that it has turned out that myself and reaper have opined at length in a stance opposed to yours does not make us right or wrong, it just means our opinions are similar.
Yours is just different to ours, is all. As for reapers liberality (liberalness??), I Don;t think it fair to attack him for no apparent reason. he is not saying you are wrong (nor am I), he is merely stating a different opinion.
I don't think that any one of us would say this is not a horrible thing to happen to anyone, regardless of their membership, or not, of the armed forces.
Addition as I just saw your post.
I would thin "fecking hell" how can this hapen in a civilised society